Tuesday, August 16, 2011

Modesty in an Immodest World (A Guest Post by Qui)

As girls, modesty is something we all struggle with daily. I know that I am sometimes tempted to dress a certain way to be accepted or to look like everyone else. Also, our choices of modest clothing is becoming very limited. I've had the same four pairs of shorts for 3 years because I can't find any others that are modest length that aren't bermudas. (Bermudas don't look good with my body type.)
 Over the years I've gathered some tips (from my mom, from Seventeen magazine- even though they didn't know they were giving me modesty tips-, and friends) about how to make the immodest clothes in the store work for you and be cute.
Here are 3 very popular looks this fall- or last fall, I don't really care about staying with the trends as long as it's cute- made modest. Mind you, it's easier to stay modest in fall because of the cooler weather, but there are still things we need to address. Especially if you live in the south like me and your fall clothes won't be the same as others because of the heat.

001) Fall Shorts

Perhaps my favorite trend from last fall was the fall shorts. They are basically nice suit pants cropped and cuffed into shorts. Of course, the shorts are too short. What a surprise! What I'm about to say might sound a little odd, but what you want to do to fix that is wear leggings under the shorts. Yes, leggings under shorts. It helps with the cool weather and the modesty!
What to wear with it: There are a couple ways you could do this look.  You can wear them with any nicer t-shirt, though it should be semi-form fitting and tucked in. Pair that top with a really cute cardigan and put a very thin belt on over the cardigan just under your bust. Or you can get a cute blouse like the lace top pictured above. For shoes, do whatever you want, though oxfords (with heels or not) look best!

002) The little dress. 
The Little Dress

Whether it's a little black dress, a little sun dress, or any kind of dress, let's face it: when they say little, they ain't kidding. If you have short legs, this probably isn't an issue, but us long legged girls have huge issues with this. So how do we fix it? This wonderful thing called....jeans! It's a great way to tap into that inner 70s girl. Which is another hot trend this fall.
The rules for this is that your jeans have to be semi-tight. If you're not comfortable with skinny jeans, I would go with flare jeans. The shorter the dress, the looser your jeans can be. The longer the dress, the tighter they should be. You should never wear jeans with any dress longer than about 3 inches above the knee. 

What to wear it with: If the weather is cooler, you can pair it with a cardigan (following the same rules as the cardigan in the first outfit) and a skinny belt. You can wear it with whatever shoes you want, but I think it looks cutest with a nice pair of wedges or little heels if you're wearing flare jeans. If you're wearing skinny jeans, you should wear ankle boots or high-tops.

003) The Boyish Blazer

Okay...the blazer is a more risky thing to wear. You have to wear it EXACTLY right or else you end up looking like Ellen Degeneres if you know what I mean. So, if you're going to wear a blazer make sure it's a bright color. Like coral! Then always pair it with a skirt or over a dress. You can wear it with jeans, but you need to try extra hard to make it look girly. Wear a floral top and have a flower headband in your hair. Accessorize with pink. It's just very easy to get across the wrong message. If you don't know what I'm talking about, I'll just say that I'm not dissing less girly girls. I love me a jeans and t-shirt day just like everyone else. All I'm doing is helping this un-girly trend become more girly. Embrace your femininity! Don't try to look like a man! 

The Rules: I already said most of the rules above...But other than the ones I already said, wear it open! You should almost always wear your blazer open!
What to wear it with: A cute, more plain, t-shirt or blouse. A skirt, or if you're feeling daring jeans. Shoes: preferably heels, but you can always wear them with flats or oxfords or Converse. 

004) Others:
Here are some other trends to "fix."

Skinny Jeans: If you want the skinny look but you don't want skin tight, try to find Skinny jeans (not the Super Skinny) that are a size or two too big. That way they're a little looser in the leg area, but it's still the skinny jean cut. When you do this however, you'll have to take in the jeans at the waist most likely or hem them. If you don't know how to do this, just look it up on youtube or ask your mom. :) But it's better to have to alter then have jeans that don't fit properly. 

Sky High Heels: This is one of those modesty things that not everyone agrees on. Some of you (like me) think it's totally fine to wear very high heels as long as you're comfortable walking in them, but some of you think they're immodest. (I can totally see where you're coming from! Sometimes high high heels aren't very modest.) If you do want to wear them, but you think they look kind of inappropriate with your skirt or dress, pair them with some bell bottom jeans.

Well, that is all! This post is getting rather long, so I should probably stop even though I could go on for hours.

Thanks so much to Lucia for letting me post on her blog! :)

{ About the Author }
Who am I? I am a 15 year old homeschooler and a nerd of many trades. I sing, I act, I dance, I write, and I live for fall. I am a Christian and not afraid to admit it. In my eyes, vintage = life. I am one of those people who takes in your face pictures of myself. In another life, I am a fifth year at Hogwarts, a Time Lord, a Starship Ranger, and a Jedi-Master. I run a blog called Dancing Through Life.


  1. Great tips! I'll definitely be using those this fall!
    Thanks so much! :)

  2. great tips, Qui! i had actually never heard some of these tips before...and that's always a refreshing change on posts like these! :)

  3. i love seeing posts like this. good for you, for striving for modesty. God is so pleased with this!!!

  4. Awesome post! I can't wear very high heels, they hurt my feet. :(

  5. Great guest post!

    I don't think that high heels are immodest, but they can be wrong for some situations... but thanks for sharing! And great tips :-)

    xoxo Miss ALK


  6. Thank you for the tips, Miss Qui! Awesome post and fashions. :)


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