Monday, August 22, 2011

what's up with with that? a.k.a. the modestly post [by Kendra]

Yes, I know Qui already posted about this topic, but I decided to go a little deeper into the subject.

What's up with girls wearing skinny tight jeans and thinking nothing of it? You're not showing of any skin, but you can still see your entire leg form. 

What's up with girls wearing shorts so short and tight that they might as well be called underpants? 

What's up with women wearing low or strapless dresses for their weddings? 

What's up with girls basically wearing their underwear to swim in? Just because you're swimming doesn't mean you can walk around in a bikini. Do you know how many times you probably make a guy lust if you're wearing things like that? Would you walk around the beach in your regular underwear? 

Why is it that the 'popular' things are all short or tight? Why is it that when you type in "fashion" in google images, almost everything is inappropriate? 

We girls personally probably don't think about if things are immodest, since we don't have a problem with it. But what about our brothers in Christ? Do you have a problem with making them sin? Most girls don't even know they're making men think lustful thoughts if they wear something immodest. 
It's hard to stand out. It's hard to wear a long, flowing skirt to the store. You get looks from people. Girls wearing the 'cool stuff' (mini skirts, tank tops) stare at you. But it's worth it. Girls, let's not try and attract attention from the wrong people. If you're wearing low cuts or clothing that reveals too much because you want attention, who are you getting attention from? Godly young men aren't going to want to look at you, they will be ashamed. Only men that aren't Godly are going to want to enjoy that kind of clothing. Do you want to attract attention from a man who isn't Godly, or from one who is Godly? 

Here is what Godly young men say about bikinis [source]:

"If you don't understand this, you need to start at square one. The more skin that is revealed, the more of a stumbling block. You can't reveal more skin than with a bikini. If you understood the purpose of publications like the Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Issue, or the objectification of swimsuit and lingerie models, you wouldn't want to wear a bikini -- unless you actually want men to sin as they look at you."

"Of course they are modest! After all, bikinis are nothing more than colorful underwear (less, actually, but that is besides the point) and we all know that underwear is perfectly acceptable and modest to wear in public. What guy could possibly be stumbled by seeing a girl only wearing underwear? Only some home-schooled, stuck-up, legalistic prude could object to that."

Everyone might wear bikinis at a waterpark or swimming pool, but that does not make them right at all. Even a swimsuit like the one on the left would be more modest than the popular swimsuits these days.

Let's see what guys say about pants: "Do you agree that skirts are more modest than pants?"

"This is a hard one. Skirts can be immodest, but assuming a modest one, the only difference between a modest skirt and modest pants is one is more distinctly feminine than the other, so I don't quite want to disagree."

"I cautiously agree. Obviously a short skirt (above the knee) would be more immodest than loose pants. However, I believe that pants are often more form fitting than skirts (especially when you bend down) This question is similar to another one. I have put a more complete treatment of the topic there. Here I just want to say that I believe that modesty is foremost but God also cares about what messages our clothes carry with them. Does a skirt carry a feminine message better than pants? I respect a girl more who wears a dress normally because I see that as a message that says "I am glad that God made me a woman and I am rebelling against ungodly tendencies in our culture to try to act like a man." I hope this helps, I do not see this as a black and white "thou shalt" but rather something that a girl needs to seek God's will on."

"I think that either is fine as long as it is not too tight (for pants) or too short (for skirts)."

It seems that skirts are more modest than pants, but pants aren't always immodest. I won't go into this topic, but I'll come to the conclusion that you can't just wear skirts or pants because all your friends do, or a certain article you read, but if God speaks to you. Everyone has different views on this topic.

tips for dressing more modestly

  1. Check your shirt, when you bend down, does anything show?
  2. Are your pants//skirt too tight? Are they too big on the waist so that they fall down? 
  3. When you bend over, does anything show? 
  4. If you're wearing shorts, make sure they don't go up more than two or three inches past the knee; and that they are not tight. 
  5. Smile, even if you're at the pool wearing board shorts and a t-shirt, and everyone else is wearing a bikini. Smiles are more attractive than revealing clothes anyways. 

That's all for now, but make sure you check yourself. Why are you wearing this outfit? Are you drawing more attention to your body than your face? 

What are your beliefs on modesty? Do you agree//disagree with anything I said? Leave a comment, but be nice. ;) 

 Also, none of these pictures are mine, they are off pinterest (I would not recommend everything on that site, I just visited it for the first time today, since many people said it was a good site.) Finally, thank you dear Lucia for letting me post on your blog! You're such a Godly young lady, it's an honor for me to be able to post on your adorable blog.

ps:: friends of Lucia, go on over and wish my little sister a happy birthday, will you?

about the author, Kendra |Does her best to live every moment. Has 7 younger siblings, wonderful & amazing parents. Lives on a farm with 13 horses, 90 something chickens, three cows, and more cats. Lives in Kentucky, and would've live anywhere else except Georgia or Sudan. Loves summer, can't stand winter. Tries to read her Bible everyday and live how God wants her too. Feels completely free running through a field, riding her rusty red bike, and climbing 5 stories high in a pine tree. Loves to write, photograph, read, and dream. Favorite colours are green, blue, & yellow. Can't survive without music. Loves to laugh and lives for Jesus. Visit my blog imagine or get a free blog design at Kendra Lynne Studios.


  1. That was... Unbelievable! It was SO amazing!!!!! Kendra, you made my mouth drop and just made so much sense out of a senseless situation. Ok, the whole bikini comment No 2? That literally made me sick. I am so glad that my mom never let us wear bikinis, and now we've chosen more coverage in our swimsuit choices. I really loved your section on skirts. About a year and a half ago (wow, it's only been that long?) my family slowly made the full transition to skirts. I don't know why. I hated jeans before anyway, so it was great to just wear skirts! And I have a tip for anyone who feels ashamed when they wear a skirt in the grocery store and get "those looks". Just think of it as a compliment. God gave me a personality where I don't even notice stares at all, but if do catch a glimpse sometimes, it makes me smile. But sad, too. I'll pray for those people who look at me with unbelief and who laugh at my "amish" appearance. But actually, I don't dress amish at all, so it's funny when people think we do! Thanks for such a touching, AMAZING post!! Mary

  2. I love this post Kendra. Modesty is very important and something we should all take into consideration.

    "Pride is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised"

    I love all of the modest clothes. The brides maids dresses are beautiful!!!! AND MODEST!!!! I also really love those jean skirts.

    Kianna Rose

  3. Thanks for this great post on modesty! I especially loved the pictures that you included in this post. To me they really seemed to show how modest can also be incredibly beautiful.

  4. Great post!
    I sort of...I dunno, I disagree yet agree. I guess I reluctantly agree and ashamedly disagree.
    Sometimes I'm ashamed of the way I dress. I do wear bikinis. I think that's my downfall. xD
    But I agree with most of these points regardless.

  5. Great post :) I've been wearing skirts for... like four years :) I do own a pair of jeans (for emergencies) but I have never worn them :). So, you'll almost always see me with a long skirt - grocery store, playing baseball, riding 4-wheelers... just about everything :)

  6. Awesome post! Great way to spread modesty, but I do have to say I do disagree with some of the things you have posted. As a Christian, I understand where you are coming from, but some of those cloths you can make cute with some different accessories and make them modest. I'm not going fully against your post, just saying I don't fully agree. It was a great post, and has given me some great ideas for my blog. Thanks!

  7. P.S. I'm also copying this onto my blog, if you don't mind.

  8. I have never worn a bikini in my entire life! Not that I would anyway.
    As to pants being more modest than skirts or vice versa, I think that in some cases, pants are so much more practical than skirts. In my climate, the winter is a bit too cold not to wear jeans, and in the summer, wearing skirts for too many days in a row gives you very sore inner legs with the heat & humidity. And with my placement at our local nursing home for my Aged Care course, it's sensible to wear pants instead of skirts. I don't like really tight pants at that, I hate the occasional skinny jenas I try on and the boot-leg jeans with the flared lower leg are really quite feminine when paired with a gorgeous top and shoes with a slight heal. I do not like the short shorts but then I don't like long ones either. We have had so much trouble trying to find a decent pair of shorts that Mum has just bought jeans and cut them this year. I love doing that - cutting jeans. It meanse you get the length that's perfect. I prefer my shorts just above the knee when I'm standing partly because I don't feel comfortable having them shorter and I don't like having them longer and Dad won't let me have them shorter. Don't take me wrong - I do love a nice skirt, but when it comes to a practicality issue, my opinion is that shorts and pants are better. Does this make sense? If it doesn't, I can't rewrite this now because I need to have breakfast and go to Eventide.
    Hannah ;)

  9. Oh wow great post! I love bikinis, as they are very comfortable and I am the ONLY one out of all my friends who doesnt wear one. I can really feel like an outcast when we are swimming and I am the only one wearing a plain Speedo. Any help with that?
    Overall--great post! This is all so true! It can be hard to go against what other people (almost everybody these days) are doing. But we can do it happily, knowing we are doing the right thing!
    --Sara Beth

  10. great post; i agree with a bunch of the points on this list! very well written, kendra!

  11. What a great, eye-opening post, Kendra. :) Thank you so much for this lovely guest is so encouraging to hear the thoughts of other young ladies on modesty! A huge, delicate topic to be sure, which you handled very nicley!


  12. So true

  13. Sarah Beth,

    YES I agree with you!
    Bikinis (thick strapped) with board shorts are SO CUTE! I'm tempted to wear one too but I don't and won't. And I feel left out when my friends are wearing cute ones and I'm wearing a boring one piece:/ So I understand girlie!
    However I know it's worth it to be modest:)


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